Should you invite your ex for your wedding?
‘Leave the past behind and live in the present’ — this saying holds true for more reasons than one. It is never a good feeling to let go of a relationship, but in order to move on and grow in life, you have to let go of your past. But when it is a special occasion like marriage, you invariably end up thinking about people who have been a part of your life even for a brief period.
Marriage, for most people is one of the most important events in life and more often than not, you want to share that joy with all the people who have made a difference to your life. And this could also include your ex.
While psychologist Varkha Chulani says it is entirely subjective, it should be fairly easy to take a decision depending on the current equation with your ex. Anubha Shrivastava, a 28-year-old working professional who tied the knot early this year was caught in a spot when she had to send her wedding invites out.
“I dated this really sweet guy in college and though I had sent out invites to my entire college gang, I was unsure if I should invite him. But it had been over six years since we broke up and I thought of calling him too since it would be a reunion of sorts,” she said, adding that she had a lovely time.
While it might be simple in Anubha’s case, it may not be easy if you had a bitter break-up. Explains Varkha, “It really depends on the emotional maturity of both the people. If both have moved on and still remain to be good friends, it is fine but if you are not going to be comfortable around his/her presence, it’s best you leave them out of the invitee list. There is no hard and fast rule as everything depends on the current equation.”
If you are still wondering whether to invite your ex or not, it is not worth the hassle! It is your big day and all that matters is that you smile throughout and have a great future, without mulling over the past.
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