Revealed: Symptoms of divorce
- Jan 17, 2013, 19:00 PM IST
Is your spouse acting differently than his normal pattern of behaviour? Then, this might be the beginning of symptoms of a problem, an expert has claimed.
According to Benjamin Berkley, Esq, Attorney and Author, clients often give the “symptoms” for why one spouse wanted to leave the marriage, out of which some are very common, the Huffington Post reported.
Here are excerpts from the report:
-we were spending less and less time together, my life felt unfulfilled, there was so much more I wanted to do, I was feeling depressed or uptight when going home, or not looking forward to going home, we were having less fun when we were together, and time together has become more serious and he was very bossy and always had to be right.
-My opinion meant nothing, he had a drinking problem before we married which only got worse, he paid attention to everyone but me, as the years passed, it was evident that we wanted different things and had different needs so we grew further apart, she became emotionally and sexually involved with someone else, followed next.
-Next came she was spending more money on “frivolous” unnecessary things and not caring to save for the future, his work consumed him and there was no time left for me, our marriage was never the same after we had kids, when we were arguing, we were verbally attacking each other rather than really listening to each other and I felt put down or taken for granted, or I was doing that to my spouse.
-Lastly, came there were increased periods of silence between me and my spouse, I had less and less sexual desire, we never seemed to have the money to do things we needed to do, I was making judgments alone or misreading what my spouse wanted to do, I was losing my own identity as an individual and I became confused about where we were going and often talked about ‘I’ not ‘We.’